A place where I can share interesting ideas and maybe get a few things off my chest

The Ghost of Treasure City

A lot of people have ghost stories. Many people have multiple stories because if you can see/sense that sort of thing, it seems like it’ll keep happening. I really only have one ghost story.

I met Larry when we were in junior high. We were in band together and became best friends into and through high school. He was a year older, and started working at Treasure City, a local discount department store, our sophomore year. A year later, he was the 3rd Assistant Manager and was often the closing manager during the week.

Larry would supervise the cashiers closing and counting out their registers and prepare the bank deposits for the following morning. After that, he would close down most of the lights and walk the perimeter of the store, checking that all the doors were locked and secure, and making sure no “guests” had missed the final closing calls. He told me stories about odd noises and the sound of footsteps. Clothes rustling and boxes falling off high stock room shelves. He said he never felt uncomfortable or afraid, just that it was kind of strange and interesting. When things got too rowdy, he asked whatever it was to knock it off so he could finish closing up and go home.

He had a desk set up in one corner of the front stock room, and I would sometimes drop by to visit after school. He gave me a tour of the store and his little office area and I sat down at his desk, messing with his pens and looking in the drawers. He said, “He likes you. Not everyone can sit there. They start to feel uncomfortable.”

“How can you tell when he’s around?”

And at that exact moment, on the other side of the stock room, a handful of locking coat rings on a rack in the corner loudly jangled together. I swung my head around to see the hanging chains still swaying and clinking together. Larry was unphased. He said, “Oh, he lets you know.” Then he waved his arm close to where we were sitting and said, “He’s right here, now.”

I stuck my hand out and straight into a freezing cold spot there in the middle of the otherwise warm room. I let out a little squeaky shriek and said, “Doesn’t he mind when you put your arm through him like that??”

Larry laughed and he said he didn’t seem to.

I went to work there as a cashier the following year, but rarely spent time in the back stock rooms or stayed after closing. Treasure City closed all its stores in the area a couple of years later. I think there was a grocery store in that space for a while, but later the entire strip center was torn down. Copilot has not been able to help me pinpoint the exact address and I have no idea what’s occupying that space now.

If you or anyone you know ever worked at the Treasure City in Irving, Texas, or at the grocery store that took over that space, I’d love to hear about any ghost stories or ghostly encounters you’d like to share.

A Birthday Visit with Mom

Mom and I were in a department store, looking at clothes in the Ladies’ section, my daughter and granddaughters looking at clothes on the other side of the wall display. I encouraged her to try on the coat she was looking at – a full-length tweed with a fitted bodice, A-line skirt, and an attached hood and capelet.

She admired herself in the mirror as I reached up to flip over one of the collar buttons and smooth out the lapel. She stood a little taller than me in her heels, with her perfect posture and her perfectly coiffed, slightly bouffant hair straight out of the 1980’s. The coat fit her just as perfectly, and I suggested we go around the corner to show the girls how nice it looked on her. She smiled, took a step towards me, and my alarm went off, rudely waking me from this most pleasant dream.

Today is Mom’s birthday. She would be 96 years old today, if she hadn’t passed in 2022, just a couple of months before her 93rd birthday. I was thinking about her all day yesterday, and how much I missed her, and how much I missed having stronger memories of her from before she moved in with me, before her dementia set in with a vengeance. After a decade of caring for her at home, and another five years of visiting her at the memory care center, most of the pictures in my head are of her as she was the last few times I saw her: slightly slumped in her wheelchair; waving at the people-shaped shadows she could just detect when staff walked past; gradually losing interest in her food during meals, even dessert. And finally, the images seared into my memory of her lying on her hospice bed, shrunken, curled up, non-responsive, as I sat with her, holding her hand and talking to her, sleeping on a cot in her room, counting the seconds between each inhalation and exhalation until there were none left to count.

I truly believe that vivid dreams of loved ones who have passed are literal visits from the Great Beyond, whatever that might be. I guess Mom felt me thinking about her and decided to drop in. It was really nice to see her again as she is in my best memories of her – standing tall, beautiful, and radiating the loving energy that helped me and all of her descendants feel like our best selves.

Thanks for stopping by, Mom. I needed to see you. Please visit again real soon.

I’m Looking At….*

Original photo by author, 12.28.25

I’m looking at the double shepherd’s crook out my home office window. On one side is the seed feeder that I just refilled. It has been empty for several days, so I may not see any birds as I’m sitting here, but I know the chickadees will be back by tomorrow morning. On the other side hangs a tray feeder holding a handful of peanuts that have been languishing there for over a week, since the last time I filled the seed hopper.

In my Florida backyard, I had blue jays, cardinals, woodpeckers, and tufted titmice all vying for the peanuts I put out every couple of days, along with a bevy of Carolina chickadees and the occasional young crow or two or three. As the squirrel baffle attached to the shepherd’s hook was quite successful in baffling the squirrels, my Florida backyard also had a platform feeder tall enough to baffle the dogs, but give the squirrels a chance at a few peanuts, too. I hope the new owners (whomever they might turn out to be) appreciate the big picture window (the only thing I truly miss about Florida) and the platform feeder too firmly planted in the ground to move with us to Texas.

I have seen nary a blue jay at the feeders since our move to our new home in a small, rural Texas town, nor a mockingbird, and only a few cardinals. There are some very wary crows who frequent the yard for acorns, but they are shyer and much more skittish than their suburban Florida counterparts, and do not approach the feeders at all. I’m still scoping out areas in the yard for the hummingbird feeder, which won’t go back out until March, and the bird bath that is still waiting patiently with the potted plants pulled from our Florida landscape, now wintering over in the sheltered space of the garage.

*This brief essay is a result of the first writing prompt in Natalie Goldberg’s “Old Friend from Far Away: The Practice of Writing Memoir”

Photos at the Cemetery

Find-A-Grave is a website where people can make virtual memorials for their loved ones, including cemetery locations, photos, and links to other family members’ memorial pages. People who live far away from where their family members have been buried can post photo requests, and, in turn, many volunteer to fulfill photo requests for memorial parks in their communities. Which is how I ended up at Curlew Hills Memory Gardens this afternoon, riding around in a golf cart with Sam.

I’ve gone over there a couple of times before with short lists, just popping in and asking for a quick assist. But when I stopped by this past Monday, it was with a list of eleven names, and Patty, one of the Family Service Counselors, was already booked for the rest of the day. She kindly took my spreadsheet and we set a time for me to return this morning. She looked all the names up in their records, noting the few that were not actually interred there (still valuable information for family members), along with the coordinates for the remaining sites.

But it was Sam, the other Family Service Counselor, who was available this morning to escort me around the grounds. Armed with about five different maps in five different sizes, all mounted on sturdy pieces of cardboard, he expertly shuffled between them, kind of like a cross between a Vegas blackjack dealer and a professional juggler, all while safely maneuvering the three-bench golf cart on the winding trails. Our last stop was near the mausoleum pictured above. I thought the stained-glass pieces resembled stylized horns, such as Gabriel might wield in the hopefully very-distant future. Sam wasn’t sure, so I’ve zoomed in on the detail so get further opinions. Do y’all see horns, too, or is this just another example of my very active pareidolia?

Local Author Showcase

I know this is a horrid photo, but since I logged on and realized it’s been almost two years since I’ve blogged anything, I’m not going to stop now to try for a better pic.

Today was the Local Author Showcase at my community library, and I think there may have been as many as fifty authors there! The photo above represents just how badly I blew the pretend budget that I told myself I was going to start adhering to, but anyone who knows me knows that books are my kryptonite. The bonus with these is that almost every one has been signed by its author, in person, right there! After I got home and was adding them into Libib, I realized I missed having one or two of the authors sign, but most of them remembered to ask me.

So, not only do I now have more great books to read, I can also imagine one day being one of the local authors participating in such an event. But for now, I have to go write up my grocery list.

I love my pressure cooker. It’s a Crockpot Multi-Cooker, but I call it the Instapot (and I really think Instant Pot missed the mark on that), and the internet agrees with me because whenever I search for new recipes, I put in Instapot as the main search term, and I am presented with exactly what I’m looking for. Sometimes many versions of exactly what I’m looking for. And then I usually pick two or three and do a recipe mash-up of what I think looks like the best from each one. Which is how I came up with the recipe for my New Year’s Day 2022 Lucky Black-Eyed Peas and Greens.

And this is also my first Yeet It or Eat It recipe post! No yeets here – I’ll have my pantry cleared out in no time!

Best-by date of July 7, 2021? Do these dates even count for dried peas and beans? I don’t think so.
Best-by date is March 20, 2018. I think I bought this to use for making black-eyed peas for New Year’s Day of 2018. Doesn’t matter; it’s been in the freezer the whole time.
These mixed greens are really tasty all on their own, but I think I’ll mix them right into the pot.
Best-by date of October 2021. Canned goods pretty much last forever, don’t they?

The recipe I started with was this one at Simply Happy Foodie, but I used the cured dried pork, which really looked a lot like thick bacon slices, so I guess it was pretty close, after all. I did not have a ham hock, but I did have half a bag of frozen baby okra. And then I mixed the can of greens in after it had finished cooking. My daughter in Texas made cornbread to go with her mess o’ peas, but I put mine over brown rice. And everyone in our households had their share to stock up on good luck for 2022 (even if some of them only ate a single pea and swallowed it whole while washing it down with grape drink so he wouldn’t taste it at all, but I’m not naming any names, Steve).

It’s been eight hours since we had our first helpings, and we’re feeling just fine, so it seems “Eat It” was the right choice here.

I hope everyone has a healthful, happy, wonderful, prosperous 2022. That’s certainly our plan.

Yeet It or Eat It?

I went through the pantry and pulled out all the foods with expired dates. For the most part, food expiration dates don’t really mean that much. They are more for retail stock rotation than anything else. While some things will go off after awhile, most of this stuff will be perfectly fine for a few more months or even years.

I did decide to toss the microwave popcorn that I bought three years ago to have at work for snacks. You remember, when we used to go to offices. And the taco shells that were way in the back. I think we’ve had taco night three times since these were safely placed behind, well, everything. And the older salad dressings are definitely on the iffy side.

The giant can of diced tomatoes is for gumbo that makes too much for just the two of us. The giant cans of tomato puree were bought by mistake because I thought I was reaching for a couple more giant cans of diced tomatoes. The salad dressings were bought BOGO when I greatly overestimated the amount of salad I would ultimately be willing to eat. And I know some of those condensed soups were bought with specific recipes in mind, but who knows which ones or how long ago.

Tonight, we had pork chops and made the Velveeta and Shells to go with them. I’ll cook up the black-eyed peas for New Year’s and enjoy them for several days after Steve chokes down his single good-luck spoonful. And with the giant recipe database that is the internet, who knows what yummy dishes some of these ingredients might eventually become a part of?

I’ll let y’all know how that works out.

The recipe came in the electric bill
Courtesy of Reddy Kilowatt and Texas Power and Light
When I was nine years old? Eleven years old?
So, fifty years ago, give or take
Half a century, good lord, how time flies
Mom made it for the next holiday – Christmas? Easter?
I don’t remember which
It was so wonderful
And it was at every holiday table after that
Still is, actually
Even though Mom hasn’t made one in years
But her descendants still make it
Ten grandchildren
Eighteen great-grandchildren
A dozen-and-counting great-great-grandchildren
Scattered across three to five states
Depending on the time of year
That pie shows up at every family holiday dinner
And is highly anticipated at a great many work potlucks
(The recipe makes two pies, but sometimes one is saved back at home)
Mom passed recently, almost 92 years old
Since then, her family has made it in homes across the South
A taste of childhood across four generations
In loving memory of Granny

(OctPoWriMo 2021 Day 4, recipe listed in “Family Recipes”, tab at the top of this page)

Getting (Re)Started

This is just a little test post, to see if I can publish from my tablet using a little bluetooth keyboard. If I can figure out the details, this might be a more portable way to do some writing, around town or maybe just around the house.

This photo of my coffee mug from a recent-ish morning journaling session was the easiest one to access. 

We’ll see how this goes.

(I really gotta clean that window….)

My first cookbook

When I graduated high school, Mom and Dad gave me a really nice sewing machine, and Aunt Helen, Mom’s sister, gave me my first cookbook.

Thank you, Aunt Helen and Frances!

She Cooks By Ear was written by my Uncle Buddy’s cousin, Frances S. James, and Aunt Helen got her to autograph it for me.

Our favorite recipe

There is great cooking advice and many great recipes between its covers, but, as you can see by all the stains, this is the family favorite. Most often it was made just as a chicken gumbo, but we did make the full recipe for company and special occasions. (Except for the oysters. Oysters are nasty.)

Just added the seafood and okra – still has another half-hour to cook.
Finished off with the secret of gumbo – powdered sassafras leaves – and ready to eat.
You can’t see the rice, but it’s under there.

Today I made the full recipe (with the previously noted exception) as a celebration for the bright-and-shiny New Year 2021. We had our requisite black-eyed peas yesterday, but this tastes way better.