Every morning, as we sit having coffee and reading the morning paper, Mother will say, “You have your regular schedule today? You’ll be home at regular time? And you’ll come home at lunchtime?”
I used to say, “Yes.” Now, because my duties at work are evolving, I say, “I hope so.”
Yesterday, shortly after this exchange, I said, “I think you ought to try going to the senior center and meet some people. I bet you could find a nice friend there.” And, instead of the automatic “No, no, I don’t want to” that I expected, she said “Do you think so?”
“Yes! I do!” I was suddenly filled with some hopes of her actually trying to do something besides sit on the couch and watch TV all day, with me her only source of social contact. I was able to come home for lunch, have a ‘delicious sandwich’, as we do every day, and then, on the back to work, I took the long way around to stop by the Dietert Center and pick up their monthly menu and activity schedule.
I stopped in to talk with my friend, Dawn, who told me that in addition to the regular activities, staff was working on having a “coffee social” time in the morning, but they weren’t sure when that would happen.
I don’t know if Mother’s total disinterest in any of the activities has been due to some level of depression from my sister’s passing and the move from east Texas, or if she is concerned about trying something new that will shed unwanted attention on growing cognitive deficits. I am now hoping that it was more the former. While I doubt that she will ever sign up for Table Tennis or Western Philosophy, perhaps Playing with Paint or Quilter’s Co-op will strike her fancy. I really believe that if she will just go there enough times to meet a couple of people, I’ll be taking her on a regular basis.
And, this morning, since I woke up at 5:30 and have what I hope to be PLENTY of time, I’m going to see if I can get her to agree to “Walking with Leslie Sansone” (which my niece, Vickie, highly recommended and I bought several months ago, but haven’t been motivated enough to try) before the television is tuned to the morning news. (I know you were wondering when I would get to why in the world that picture was there, especially on MY blog – hahahaha!)
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Oh, this isn’t on a machine? (How do you know when you’ve walked a mile?) Maybe it’s too energetic for her; try yoga or tai chi instead. Something at a slow pace, that will give her brain and eyes time to catch up with before it goes to the next thing. Or, YOU call the steps. The videos I’ve seen have such a cheery attitude–made for apathetic people, not elderly–that it makes me gag sometimes. 🙂
The Leslie Sansone DVD that I have been using intermittently (ha!) is her easiest one – “Get Up and Get Moving”!”. It shows a meter periodically throughout the program, the premise being that if you’re picking your feet up and down to the beat they’re using, then you will walked the equivalent of a mile by the end of the 18-minute program. >>As far as trying something different – she’s just not interested. At the Dietert Center, they do some exercise, and I think that the peer pressure is the only thing that really gets her to participate.